Sunday, August 4, 2013

From: Jessica Fisher [mailto:jessica.fisher@myldsmail.net]
Sent: Monday, July 22, 2013
Transfer 9, week 6: A parade, trumpets, yo hablo espanol un poquito, gave a talk etc.


 Hola Familia!

 Wow this week has just wooooooshed past. 
It was my last week in Burlington before I head back to Temple Square!
 
We taught a lot of people and prepared a float for the community pioneer day parade on Saturday-pictures to come...
(we were  missionaries with trumpets [well they were actually made of a funnel and some toilet paper roles all taped together with yellow paper on top] proclaiming the gospel) because the parade was missionary themed.

We had some awesome member-present lessons (which always make me happy) with some members from the ward in the lessons speaking spanish with us. I said my first prayer in Spanish at a lesson and we sang I am a Child of God and Families can be Together Forever in Espanol as well.

Pretty neat! It's been a great experience here. Hard to say some goodbyes to people, kids and their animals (some of their dogs I'm good friends with haha) but the work goes forward! Part of my heart will remain in Burlington, MT though!

I'm excited for Sister A because her new companion is a visa waiter, waiting to go to Peru. And she speaks spanish! (well at least more than I do... haha) And Sister A is assigned to only speak spanish to her so that she'll learn faster. She'll be a great asset to Burlington/Otto area.

The Bishop of the Otto ward called it a "miracle" that we got one of the less actives to church two weeks in a row. The secret? We just love them. We help them. We lift their spirits. And they want to change. So we can help them. 

 It was neat. A week ago we took a picture with one of the cute old ladies we go visit, even though it wasn't my last week, I just felt like I should grab a picture with her just in case we didn't see her the next week. I'm so glad I did. She had a stroke this week and actually passed away. We probably had the last picture with her alive. She was almost 94 years old, and has lots of loved ones waiting to greet her on the other side.

 We've been so busy I can hardly think specifically what we've been busy with. The last two or three weeks seem to just combine in my mind.

Dad wrote me a letter this week, and it was exactly what I needed to hear. One of the quotes that is now a book mark I look at each day, and what he wrote was this: "The deepest and greatest memories of your mission are still ahead of you." I know that to be true and commit myself, even when it's hard to, to move forward in faith expecting those miracles.

 I gave a talk in Church which is the compilation of all of my thoughts the last 3 months on Sunday. I wrote a talk on Thursday and then as I was praying that day I just felt that I should change it, and I rewrote it Sunday morning before I gave it at the meeting.  Here it is:

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 Our purpose here on earth is to have joy, to understand it and to be happy. "Men are that they might have joy." 2 Ne 2:25

So why are there so many children of God that aren't happy?

There's three major categories that God has promised us if we focus on, we will find joy in this life and joy in the next as well: Attitude, Priorities and Obedience. 

1. Attitude

Nephi describes it as this in 2 Nephi chapter 2 "For it must needs be, that there is an aopposition in all things. If not so, my firstborn in the wilderness, righteousness could not be brought to pass, neither wickedness, neither holiness nor misery, neither good nor bad...Therefore they would have remained in a state of innocence, having no bjoy, for they knew no misery; doing no good, for they knew no csin. But behold, all things have been done in the wisdom of him whoaknoweth all things."

So to teach us what happiness feels like and what true joy is, sadness and hardship and adversity was a necessary part of our education, because we needed the opposition to understand what joy is.
We also know that "the Lord God gave unto man that he should aact for himself. Wherefore, man could not bact for himself save it should be that he was centiced by the one or the other."

Happiness is therefore a choice as well. Once we recognize this, we understand that when disappointments, challenges, opposition, frustrations and hardships come, they are just in disguise the opportunity to choose to either be happy or sad. 

It was essential in God's plan of happiness, for us to come to earth and to learn and to grow and to make decisions. 

 God has given us the ability to choose.

"...there is a God, and he hath bcreated all things, both the heavens and the earth, and all things that in them are, both things to act and things to be cacted upon."

 We either allow the things that happen to us affect how we feel, or we are agents who act and are not acted upon. What do you mean,  you may say? To be acted upon is to allow someone else's choice to affect how you choose to feel- "they made me mad" is a common expression we use when we choose to be affected by someone else's choice. To act means to decide to be happy despite opposition or to remain calm amid adversity or contention. 

 As we analyze our attitudes, we will choose more often to be happy, to remain calm and in control of ourselves and we will find greater happiness. 

 This is one of the greatest tests of this life. Mormon 9:14 says "And then cometh the ajudgment of the Holy One upon them; and then cometh the time that ... he that is happy shall be happy still; and he that is unhappy shall be unhappy still."

If we don't learn how to choose happiness despite trials here on earth, we've missed out on a huge opportunity to learn it. You're only as happy as you decide you are. Attitude equals your altitude. 

 As President Uchtdorf says, "So often we get caught up in the illusion that there is something just beyond our reach that would bring us happiness: a better family situation, a better financial situation, or the end of a challenging trial.

The older we get, the more we look back and realize that external circumstances don’t really matter or determine our happiness. We do matter. We determine our happiness. You and I are ultimately in charge of our own happiness." (http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2012/10/of-regrets-and-resolutions?lang=eng)

"Never stop striving for the best that is within you. Never stop hoping for all of the righteous desires of your heart. But don’t close your eyes and hearts to the simple and elegant beauties of each day’s ordinary moments that make up a rich, well-lived life.

The happiest people I know are not those who find their golden ticket; they are those who, while in pursuit of worthy goals, discover and treasure the beauty and sweetness of the everyday moments. They are the ones who, thread by daily thread, weave a tapestry of gratitude and wonder throughout their lives. These are they who are truly happy." (http://www.lds.org/broadcasts/article/general-relief-society-meeting/2011/09/forget-me-not?lang=eng

2. Priorities

2 Nephi again teaches us:

"Wherefore, do not spend money for that which is of no worth, nor your labor for that which cannot satisfy..." (2 Ne 9:51)

 We must be careful to not fill our lives with the things that cannot satisfy, while we feel so busy and frustrated and scattered that we struggle to fit in the things that do matter. Take an inventory of your life and all of your activities and number them all 1-5: 1 meaning the things that at the end of your life you'll remember and be grateful for, and 5 are the things that just fill your time. 

Let us not become so busy that we miss out on the opportunity to be happy. We are all busy. But we are not all happy. So what is the difference?

President Uchtdorf has said, "Isn’t it true that we often get so busy? And, sad to say, we even wear our busyness as a badge of honor, as though being busy, by itself, was an accomplishment or sign of a superior life."

 But he reminds us in another talk, Forget Me Not,
"An acceptable sacrifice is when we give up something good for something of far greater worth.

Giving up a little sleep to help a child who is having a nightmare is a good sacrifice. We all know this. Staying up all night, jeopardizing our own health, to make the perfect accessory for a daughter’s Sunday outfit may not be such a good sacrifice. Dedicating some of our time to studying the scriptures or preparing to teach a lesson is a good sacrifice. Spending many hours stitching the title of the lesson into homemade pot holders for each member of your class perhaps may not be. Every person and situation is different, and a good sacrifice in one instance might be a foolish sacrifice in another. How can we tell the difference for our own situation? We can ask ourselves, “Am I committing my time and energies to the things that matter most?” There are so many good things to do, but we can’t do all of them. Our Heavenly Father is most pleased when we sacrifice something good for something far greater with an eternal perspective. Sometimes, that may even mean nurturing small but beautiful forget-me-not flowers instead of a large garden of exotic blooms."
Are our priorities in line? If they are not, we could find ourselves laboring for that which cannot satisfy, and we will constantly be unsatisfied. Not happy, no matter how much we achieve, accomplish or produce. 

Just as eating one oreo cannot satisfy, we must make sure that we fill our lives with the things that matter most first, and then add the other things around that. The world tells us that the reason why we're not happy is because we need more oreos to feel satisfied- more money, more clothes, more hours at work, more extracurricular, more cars, more facebook friends, more vacations, more movies music and video games, more more and more. And once you eat the entire box of oreos you finally do feel sort of satisfied. But it then takes more and more to feel satisfied again. 
Unless we are eating of the bread of life that fulfills us and brings us the joy that we were seeking for in the oreos. Let us make sure those eternally significant things are always at the top of our list: Personal prayer, personal scripture study, church attendance, time to spend on our callings, temple attendance, time with our spouse and family, family scripture study, family prayer, family home evening, family history and temple service, home teaching and visit teaching, missionary work, fellow shipping those who struggle or are lonely in the ward. Those are the things that bring us the joy we lack and then try and look for in other places.

One of the happiest scriptures I've found describes those things that we must do to have "great joy"--
"Nevertheless, the people of the church did have great joy because of the conversion of the Lamanites, yea, because of the church of God, which had been established among them. And they didafellowship one with another, and did rejoice one with another, and did have great joy." Helaman 6:3

I promise that we will have greater joy as we do an inventory of our lives and place the most eternally significant priorities first. We will then realize that we don't have much time or concern for much of the things that clutter and clog our time.

 3. Obedience

 President Hinckley said “The happiness of the Latter-day Saints, the peace of the Latter-day Saints, the progress of the Latter-day Saints, the prosperity of the Latter-day Saints, and the eternal salvation and exaltation of this people lie in walking in obedience to the counsels of … God.”

 Why do we have commandments? Because a loving Father in Heaven wanted to paint a path that we could walk on that would guarantee us in this world of choice and learning, to find peace and happiness and that would lead us straight back to Him. It is the shortest path, the straightest path, the easiest path in the long run. All 'alluring' short cuts always lead away from the destination we are all seeking. 

 "There is no need for you or for me, in this enlightened age when the fulness of the gospel has been restored, to sail uncharted seas or to travel unmarked roads in search of truth. A loving Heavenly Father has plotted our course and provided an unfailing guide—even obedience. A knowledge of truth and the answers to our greatest questions come to us as we are obedient to the commandments of God." -President Monson,  (http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2013/04/obedience-brings-blessings?lang=eng

 King Benjamin promised us all, "And moreover, I would desire that ye should consider on the blessed and ahappy state of those that keep the commandments of God. For behold, they are bblessed in all things, both temporal and spiritual; and if they hold out cfaithful to the end they are received into dheaven, that thereby they may dwell with God in a state of never-ending happiness. O remember, remember that these things are true; for the Lord God hath spoken it." (Mosiah 2:41)

 That's a huge promise. I know that it is true. We just have to obey and we will find the joy we are all searching for in other paths.

 I know that there is an area that we can all improve in. We may be doing good in two of the three, but I know that we will only find that great joy as we do our best in all of those categories. God has promised us joy as we do our best in improving our attitudes, priorities and obedience. Pray and ask Heavenly Father what you can do to improve in those areas and I promise you that He will answer you, and as you apply it in your life you will find greater happiness and enjoy the journey even more.

I love you all,

Sister Fisher

 

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